EPHESIANS 4:11-13 And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers; For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ: Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ.
1 CORINTHIANS 12:28 And God hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers, after that miracles, then gifts of healings, helps, governments, diversities of tongues.
Looking at the fivefold ministry it is interesting to see that Christ (The Groom) is the one who gave gifts to His Body (The Bride) for the perfection of the saints. Now if marriage is a type and a shadow of the relationship between Christ and the Church then it is also important to note that the support system for the church should also be available in a family set up. I feel it is the duty of every man to establish this system ie the fivefold ministry in his home just as Christ did in His home. With that in mind I am going to look at five spiritual duties and roles of a husband and father.
- Evangelist – Group.
In the natural for a family to come up it is the man who will group people around him and find them a place to stay. As a single man you will need a day to spread the gospel of love to a specific person. You will use fishing skills and you will also need the grace of God to win the soul.
This is just like in evangelism. You should not just pick randomly but you pray and you target. Miracles, signs and wonders are tools you can use to win souls and men usually perform miracles signs and wonders to win that soul. The only difference is once you have won a soul you are done you don’t keep evangelising this way but you change the strategy.
The next thing is children will come and that is your responsibility as a father. Realise that the point is still the same fishing skill, faith and grace. (I will not say more on this but I am sure all married men understand)
The evangelist is the one who groups people and draw them to Christ and man you can do that and come up with a family. You are also responsible for the salvation of your children. Pray for them and teach them the Word of God.
- The Pastor – Guard
You need to be the Pastor of your family as a father. Make sure that your family is provided for in terms of need including security. You need to be the shepherd of you family and make sure that you wife and children are safe and secure from the so many evils of this world. The television, internet and society as a whole has some evil practices which you need to make sure that your family is guarded from such.
I am sure that you need to understand Psalm 23 and John 10 and be able to be the good shepherd to your family. Take lessons from the Lord Jesus who is the good shepherd and be a good shepherd to your wife and children.
Qualities of a good shepherd are
- Feeding – you need to provide for your family
- Watering – Provide ministry of the Holy Spirit to your family.
- Grooming – You are the one who will prepare your family for the world. If need be you may use work from other people but you are responsible for preparing your family for ministry.
- Shearing – As you prepare your family there are times where discipline and rebuke are necessary tools. Don’t be afraid to use them.
- Delivering lambs – You are to promote and develop the fruits of your family.
- Leading- You should provide leadership for your family in all circumstances.
- Looking for lost sheep.
- The Teacher – Ground
As a father it is your responsibility to teach your family. I believe that you need to establish a doctrine within your family. Your wife and children should not find it difficult to make a decision even when you are not around because they are well taught and grounded in the Word and in you principles and values.
- The Prophet – Guide
You are the visionary of your family. You know where you are to go and therefore guide your family. Speak prophetically to your children and pray for them.
When a child is born it is the duty of the father to pray for the child and speak guiding words into the child’s life. Look at Jacob when he was dying, he spoke prophetically all his children and two of his grandchildren. He guided them and you as a man you need to do that.
5. Apostle – Govern
Finally no one will govern your family except for you.Apostles are messengers sent by the Lord. You will find that normally Apostle have a specific calling that they are called for. That calling will then distinguish apostolic houses.
You as an individual you have a calling and an anointing for your house. You need not copy the next door guy or this successful man but you have a calling and purpose for your family which you need to fulfil. Look at David and Solomon they were both kings but they had different mandates.
So your role as the apostolic father of your family is to establish your apostolic house (Family) and to raise a crop of people who move and fulfil the purposes of that apostolic house. God, having given you a purpose has also equipped you with divine abilities so that you can achieve this role
Also realise that you have been need to be a sound person and therefore be able teach, establish and fiercely defend sound doctrine for your family. This means that if your child starts listening or reading wrong material you can be able to correct and establish them in the correct and sound doctrine.